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There are a few things I have to say about Dominique Strauss-Kahn

Dominique Strauss-Kahn is an accused sexual predator, yet he gets to leave custody to live in a 14 million dollar townhouse (see photo above), which has 7,000 square feet, heated floors, a spa, and most important, daily maid service.

I heard on the news that they chose this location apparently because it can be properly secured. They said it was the only location that had only one entrance. Really? Every apartment I ever lived in in Manhattan only had one entrance/exit.

Why should a person under house arrest get to stay in a place like this? Isn’t the whole point of house arrest that you’re confined and begin to face the things you have done? This is not so much house arrest, but a scaled back version of what he is already accustomed to. In the meanwhile his alleged victim has to be further traumatized by this travesty of justice. And where does she get to live?

When it comes to his trial, I wonder how will they find a jury of his peers? How many have that kind of money? What men are out there that were in amazing positions of power and so callously and violently abused it with their sexual inappropriateness and violence? Hmmm. Well actually I can think of a few. Kobe Bryant and Arnold Schwarzenegger come to mind. Trouble is, they may be tied up in scandals of their own.

A Report: The First “5,000 Women” Performance Festival

This past Saturday, May 21st 2011, I produced the first “5,000 Women” Performance Festival at my alma mater, Wesleyan University and I am still basking in the glow. The goal of this festival is to eventually have 5,000 women artists performing at the same time and inspire laughter, healing and transformation in the world. Sound good to you?

For this May 21st performance I was joined by Aleta Staton (award-winning actress and artistic associate at Young Audiences of New Haven), Vashti Dubois (director, consultant, founder of Ft. Mom which transforms and empowers women and the spaces they live in), Stephanie Fungsang (dancer in NYC), Naaz Hosseini (composer, violinist, vocalist who has toured the world with Meredith Monk), Nafeesa Monroe (of HBO’s Def Poetry Jam), Elizabeth Liang (actress in LA – you’ve probably seen her on TV), and Karen Gross (singer-songwriter, cabaret chanteuse).

The effect on the audience was electric, as the head of the Center for the Arts at Wesleyan said “I was so moved by all of the pieces that I was able to see…struck by each woman’s individuality and clarity of purpose, their centeredness and confidence, and their deep commitment to their work. And you, well your intelligent, subversive humor is delightful and so expertly executed so you can get away with murder. I just love what you do and how you were able to transition between the pieces.”

Also on the program was a panel “Making It In the Arts, Is It Possible?” in which the performers were joined by Lisa Anne Porter (actress), Dana Leslie Goldstein (playwright and poet), and Grace Overbeke (marketing and communications director at Theatre J). Panelists fielded questions on how to make your livelihood from following your passion as a woman in the performing arts. As I looked out at the audience I saw people of every age, gender and race. Clearly the topic tapped a nerve. I think the audience wanted to be encouraged in their efforts to bring their dreams to fruition too. There were 180 years worth of experience in the field on that panel, generously sharing with one another, the students, and the audience. I felt aligned with my life purpose to gather and share all this wisdom, talent and advice and disseminating it for everyone’s benefit.

Following the panel, Martha Meade (a muralist) presented her work creating murals throughout LA, Tamina Davar showed a preview of her documentary about Taraporevala (Mississipp Massala, The Namesake) which will be out next year, and there was a screening of FLY AWAY by Janet Grillo (director, writer, producer) about a mother raising her autistic daughter. Each of these Wesleyan “5,000 Women” explored stories of transforming and healing in families and communities, bringing attention to the often overlooked or invisible.

It looks like the “5,000 Women” festival will be presented again next year at Wesleyan. In addition, I will offer workshops and performances this year in the Philadelphia area. If you want to become a fan of “5,000 Women” you can find the fan page on www.facebook.com and say you “like it” (and I hope you will!). Once a fan, you can connect to the artists, hear about their latest creations and musings, and eavesdrop on the conversation about what it takes for us –day in, day out — to make our lives a work of art.

Going in the wrong direction

Lily and I were walking home from a play date a block away. Still, we managed to get lost. Actually, we got lost on purpose. When we were almost home, Lily said, “Now you walk backwards in the wrong direction, and I will walk backwards in the opposite direction. Then when we realize we’re not in the right place, we can start again!” We did this, over and over and over. Each time we laughed and laughed when we realized we were in the wrong place.

I’ve been thinking that most of us spend a lot of time trying to “get it right,” but we were having a really great time intentionally “doing it wrong.”

I recall reading that a plane gets where it’s going by being off course 99% of the time and constantly correcting its trajectory. We learn by doing it wrong too. Imagine if we also enjoyed those missteps, the moments we drift off course?

Why not have fun with going in the wrong direction, and enjoying it for a change?

A Passover Revelation

At the Seder yesterday, we were using a humanist, feminist Haggadah.
I explained to Lily that when we celebrate Passover it reminds us that people everywhere should be liberated and free. “We do this every year to remember how we were once slaves,” I told her. “And unfortunately, other people in the world still are,”
Lily cocked her head. “What are slaves?”
“People who don’t get to decide how they want to live their lives. They work for no money, and are treated badly.” Lily’s expression grew stormy and disturbed. Then she shifted gears, brightened, and looked at me.
“Mommy, I have an idea.”
“Yes, Lil?”
“This should be the last Passover ever. Everyone can be free, and no one has to be a slave anymore.”
All I could do was stare at her.
“Lil, that’s a fantastic idea.”
Wouldn’t that be the best?

Learning from Lily: A Tale in Conscious Parenting

I love encouraging Lily to dream big. But sometimes I find myself dashing her hopes with my own limited thinking. My discouragement can be overt or subtle, but I make it a practice to check myself and make a conscious choice to be open to the wide expanse of whatever she’s brewing up.
When Lily was just 18 months old, I told her we were going to a fair. She had only been to a country fair, so she assumed the city street fair would be packed with the kinds of animals we’d seen at the country fair.
“I’m so excited. I get to see animals at the street fair!” she beamed.
“Actually honey,” I cautioned, “there aren’t animals at the city fair. It’s more like there are booths with fun things to buy or eat.”
Then I caught myself. I really heard what I was saying. I realized I was being dismissive about her dream to see animals, so I adjusted my attitude.
“Lily, if there were animals at this fair, what would you most want to see?”
“I really want to see a rabbit!”
“Well I don’t think it’s likely we’ll find a rabbit, but let’s go to the city fair and see if we do.”
After going one block into the city street fair we passed hordes of twenty-somethings with beers, pop music stations with free frisbees, and many give-aways, but no rabbit. But then on the next block guess what we saw? Right there in the middle of the city mayhem, stood a street magician with his trusty assistant, a live rabbit!
I swear, my jaw dropped. “Lily!!! You wanted a rabbit, and you manifested a rabbit! I never saw a rabbit at a city fair before. You are amazing.”
Lily cocked her head and smirked. “Yes, Mom. I just really wanted to see one, and so we did.”
I am learning from Lily to be open-minded, especially when it comes to what we really want.